Three out of four couples admit their bedroom life has gone from sizzling to snoozing within just two years of being together.
But what if rekindling that spark was simpler than anyone thought?
The bedroom doesn’t have to become a place where excitement goes to die. Countless couples have discovered that small, unexpected changes can transform their intimate lives almost overnight.
If you’re looking for things to try in the bedroom that actually work, this collection of tips comes straight from couples who’ve beaten the boredom trap.
No complicated advice from self-proclaimed experts – just real solutions that work in real relationships.
These ideas are surprisingly simple, genuinely fun, and might completely change how couples connect with each other. Could tonight be the night to find out why?
Why Should You Try New Things in The Bedroom
The key to a lasting relationship isn’t found in grand gestures or expensive gifts. It’s found in those moments when couples step outside their comfort zone behind closed doors.
Most relationships fall into predictable patterns over time. The same routine, night after night, can slowly reduce even the strongest attraction between partners. This isn’t just about physical satisfaction – it’s about keeping the emotional connection that brought them together.
When couples test new approaches in the bedroom, they build trust through vulnerability. These shared moments create chances for better communication and deeper understanding.
Perhaps most importantly, trying new things shows partners they’re worth the effort. It signals that neither person takes the other for granted, and that both want to grow their intimacy together rather than settling for comfortable sameness.
How to Start Something New in Bed
Trying new things in the bedroom doesn’t need to feel awkward or odd. Small steps and open talks make all the difference in keeping things fun and free from stress.
- Start with a simple conversation: The best way to introduce new ideas is during a calm moment outside the bedroom. Pick a time when both of you are relaxed and not busy. Keep the talk light and mention one or two things you’d like to try.
- Use humor to break the ice: Laughter makes talking about bedroom matters much easier. When both partners can smile about what they want, it takes away the pressure. Just be careful not to joke in a way that might make your partner feel put down.
- Read or watch something together first: Finding an article or video about bedroom tips can give you both ideas to talk about. This takes the focus off either of you and puts it on what you’re reading or watching.
- Check in often: Are you both comfortable? Once you start trying new things, ask how your partner feels about it. A quick “Is this good?” or “Do you like this?” shows you care about their comfort.
- Keep things light, not pressured: Remember that the goal is to have fun together, not to complete a task. When you remove the pressure to “get it right,” both of you will feel more free to suggest new ideas in the future.
Easy and Fun Things to Try in the bedroom (Low Pressure)
1. Change Your Sleeping or Cuddle Position
Sleeping close can boost connection. Switch who’s the big spoon or try laying face to face. Even minor changes feel different.
“Touch strengthens the bond between partners.”
2. Wear Something You’ve Never Worn to Bed
Pick an outfit that feels fresh—maybe a silky robe, oversized tee, or nothing at all. It’s not about how you look, but how you feel. Change sparks curiosity.
“Comfort and surprise both help intimacy.”
3. Light Candles or Use a Color-Changing Bulb
Lighting changes how the room feels without doing much. Soft, dim lights or colored bulbs make things feel warmer. It helps your brain switch from day mode to night.
“Warm light makes people feel more relaxed.”
4. Play ‘Truth or Dare: Bedroom Edition’
A simple game that opens the door to flirting. Keep it playful or move to deeper questions. You can go as far as you want—or not at all.
“Games can break the tension and help people open up.”
5. Give Each Other a Wordless Massage
Take five minutes each. Use just your hands—no words. Focus on making your partner feel relaxed, seen, and cared for.
“Physical touch lowers stress hormones.”
6. Play a Slow Romantic Playlist You Made Together
Music builds the atmosphere without effort. Make a playlist of shared favorites or slow, calming songs. Let it play softly in the background.
“Music can shape mood and memory.”
7. Try a Yes/No/Maybe List
Each person fills out a list of things they’d be open to, unsure about, or not into. Then compare answers to see what matches. It’s a safe way to talk about wants.
“Writing helps people share more honestly.”
8. Take a Shower Together Without Talking
Warm water, soft touches, and no words—it feels calm and connected. Let the water wash away the day, together. Don’t aim for sexy—just closeness.
“Shared routines increase intimacy.”
9. Use a Feather or Soft Brush for Light Touch
Run it slowly over arms, legs, neck, or stomach. Don’t rush. These light touches make your skin extra sensitive in the best way.
“Feather-light contact wakes up skin nerves.”
10. Share a 2-Minute Eye Contact Session
Sit close. Set a timer. Just look into each other’s eyes without saying anything. It might feel silly at first—but that fades fast.
“Eye contact boosts emotional bonding.”
Medium-Level Bedroom Ideas (Need a Little Talking)
11. Share a Fantasy Without Acting It Out (Yet)
Sit or lie down together and take turns sharing one private fantasy. You don’t have to do anything—just talk. Often, the conversation alone builds closeness.
“Talking about fantasies boosts trust and connection.”
12. Use a Timer for ‘One Person in Charge’
Set a timer for 10 minutes. One person gets full control over what happens (within comfort zones). Then switch roles.
“Taking turns builds balance and excitement.”
13. Try a Blindfold and Let the Other Lead
Blindfolds make every touch feel more intense. When you can’t see, you notice everything more. It adds fun surprise and makes trust stronger.
“Losing one sense heightens the others.”
14. Introduce Ice Cubes or Warm Towels
Test warm and cold touches on the skin, especially sensitive spots like the neck or stomach. The switch between hot and cool adds playful tension.
“Temperature play activates sensory nerves fast.”
15. Whisper Only—No Regular Talking
Decide that for a set time, you can only whisper. It makes you listen harder, talk slower, and keeps things soft and focused.
“Whispering naturally lowers tension and raises attention.”
16. Try a Couples App Like Kindu or Spicer
Download a trusted app that helps couples share interests, ideas, and boundaries. It’s private, low-pressure, and can bring up things you wouldn’t normally say.
“Couples who talk more tend to feel closer.”
17. Take a Sensual Bath Together
Light a candle, add bubbles, and just soak together. Don’t rush it—relax, talk, or sit in quiet. It resets the mood after a long day.
“Warm water boosts mood and comfort levels.”
18. Play a Bedroom Dice Game
Use action + body part dice, or make your own. Each roll decides what happens next. It makes things fun and lets chance lead the way.
“Games reduce pressure and boost creativity.”
19. Set Up a Mirror to Watch Yourselves
Place a mirror near the bed or across from you. Seeing each other from a new angle brings in a different kind of excitement.
“Visual feedback increases attraction.”
20. Give Each Other Secret Dares During the Day
Write simple dares on notes or text each other during the day. It builds excitement and turns the evening into something to look forward to.
“Anticipation heightens desire and connection.”
Bold and Adventurous Bedroom Tips (Need Trust and Consent)
21. Try Strip Poker or Strip Uno
Turn a regular game into something flirty. Each time you lose, you remove one item of clothing. It’s playful and lets things build slowly.
“Playful competition boosts attraction.”
22. Use Glow-in-the-Dark Body Paint
Get creative and draw on each other using body-safe glow paint. Then turn off the lights and see the surprise. It’s fun, silly, and a little sexy.
“New visuals activate the brain’s pleasure centers.”
23. Act Out a Fake ‘First Date’ Scene
Pretend you’ve just met. Dress up, play roles, and flirt like strangers. This adds excitement and a bit of mystery.
“Roleplay encourages emotional playfulness.”
24. Try a ‘No Hands’ Round
Make a rule that you can’t use your hands—only lips, face, or body. It shifts focus and slows everything down.
“Limitations often spark more creativity.”
25. Use Flavored Body Gel or Lickable Lotion
Pick a body-safe flavored product and apply it to kissable spots. Tasting becomes part of the fun and makes exploration feel new.
“Multi-sensory play deepens attention.”
26. Write a 1-Minute Erotic Story About Each Other
Each of you writes a short, steamy story starring both of you. Read them out loud in bed for some blush-worthy laughs—or ideas.
“Storytelling improves emotional openness.”
27. Set a ‘No Kissing Until the End’ Rule
Skip the kisses until the very end. This makes every other touch feel stronger and builds up a sense of craving.
“Restraint builds anticipation.”
28. Try Light Restraints (Like Scarves or Ties)
Use soft materials like scarves, long socks, or even a robe belt. Always talk first and agree on limits. Start slow and watch reactions.
“Light bondage increases trust and body awareness.”
29. Describe What You Want—Out Loud
Take turns saying exactly what you’d like the other to do. It builds clarity, confidence, and helps avoid guessing games.
“Clear words make intimacy more satisfying.”
30. Try Roleplay with a Simple Outfit or Prop
No need for full costumes. Even a pair of glasses, a hat, or a simple voice change can shift the mood. Laugh if it feels silly—it’s part of the fun.
“Small changes spark imagination.”
Extra-Spicy and Kink-Inspired Ideas (With Full Consent)
31. Create a ‘Red Light’ Theme Night
Switch out your normal light for a red bulb or lamp. It makes the room feel different and sets a more daring mood. Even the smallest change can make it feel new.
“Color influences mood and behavior.”
32. Try Edging (Stop-and-Start Teasing)
Take turns bringing each other close—then stopping. Do this 2–3 times before finishing. It makes the final moment way more intense.
“Edging increases sensitivity and build-up.”
33. Explore a Shared Kink Using a Quiz
Take a kink or intimacy quiz online and compare answers. Talk about anything that surprises you. Choose one thing you’re both curious about and try it safely.
“Mutual curiosity improves comfort and consent.”
34. Have a Silent Round—No Words at All
Try to go an entire session without talking. Focus on sounds, breathing, and movement. This keeps you fully in the moment.
“Silence sharpens focus on nonverbal cues.”
35. Use Cold Metal (Spoons or Jewelry) on Warm Skin
Grab a clean spoon or necklace and chill it briefly. Then glide it gently over warm skin. The surprise feeling wakes up your senses.
“Temperature contrast shocks nerves in a good way.”
36. Play ‘Guess the Object’ While Blindfolded
Use safe, soft household items—like a feather, makeup brush, or ice cube. Your partner guesses what it is by feel. It’s fun, silly, and surprisingly hot.
“Mystery adds playful tension.”
37. Make a Flirty Audio Recording for Each Other
Record a short message describing something you want to do together. Send it during the day or play it in bed. Voice makes it personal.
“Hearing a partner’s voice boosts emotional closeness.”
38. Use a Remote-Control Toy Together
There are many body-safe options where one person controls the sensation. Use it in the room—or even out in public if you’re daring.
“Shared control strengthens connection and fun.”
39. Write on Each Other with a Body-Safe Marker
Draw hearts, arrows, or messages on each other’s skin. It’s intimate, silly, and totally different from usual touch.
“Body marking increases body confidence and bonding.”
40. Watch a Scene from a Romantic or Erotic Movie
Pick a clip that feels just bold enough for both of you. Talk about what you liked or didn’t. It can inspire something new or just lead to a good talk.
“Shared watching builds emotional and physical closeness.”
Bringing the Spark Back: Your Bedroom Roadmap
Looking for new ways to connect with your partner? You’ve got a clear path now. Start small. Talk openly. Remember why this matters. Better connection awaits. More trust grows. Both partners feel valued.
Tonight is perfect timing. Try something from this list. Tip #18 might shock you both! The important part isn’t what you pick. It’s that you try it together.
Small changes in the bedroom create big changes elsewhere. Your relationship deserves this attention. The effort pays off quickly.
Which tip catches your eye? Which one makes you curious? Your next great moment together might start with just one idea from this list.
