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The Truth Behind Being a Teen Mom

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Today my baby boy turned 18-years-old! The thing is, I’m really not old enough to have a son who’s 18. You see, I was only 17 when I gave birth to my son. Being a teen mom wasn’t easy but I made it and I’m sharing my story.

I know reality show Teen Mom likes to say they are helping to prevent teen pregnancy, but I’m here to tell you they aren’t! The show glamorizes being a teen mom. I can tell you from experience that being a teen mom is anything but glamorous.

If you are a parent, I highly suggest you sit down with your teen and read my story together.

Being a teen parents isn't easy no matter how glamorous MTV makes it look. Talk to your kids about teen pregnancy.

The Truth Behind Being A Teen Mom

I was a junior in high-school when I met my high-school sweetheart and a year later I was pregnant. I was 16 and a senior in high school. I should have been thinking about my education, parties, sports, friends, prom and preparing for college. Instead, I was shopping for cribs, diapers, bottles and taking parenting classes at night.

I was naive and thought that I was in love and I was going to live this perfect life with my high school sweetheart. We would have this perfectly healthy baby, get our own apartment, get married and live happily ever after.

Guess what? Not one of those things happened!

My son was born a month early and was air-lifted to a University hospital where he spent just over one month in an incubator. Here I was, 17 and no clue how to take care of a baby let alone one that was extremely sick.

For the first month of my son’s life, I was able to touch him through the holes in his incubator while wearing gloves.

While my friends were graduating, enjoying sober grad night and getting ready to head off to college, I was in a tiny lactation room learning how to pump breast milk. I was living 4 hours away from home, in a hotel room, spending every waking moment in the NICU with my son.

Guess where my high school sweetheart was? He was enjoying sober grad night, parties and living it up with his friends back home. Sure, he came up to the hospital every now and then, but it was on me to deal with doctors and make extremely important medical decisions.

When my son was released from the hospital, I not only had to learn how to be a mom but a mom to a child that needed to see specialists, a mom to a baby that had to be woken up every hour to ensure he was breathing and eating.

Thankfully, I was able to live with my parents, but they made it clear it was my job to raise my son.

Three months after coming home from the hospital with my son, we got a tiny studio apartment. I was working at fast food restaurant, no car, hardly any money and struggling to provide for my son.

His father was still around….when it was convenient for him that is.

I struggled to provide for my son, I was doing every I could but it never felt like enough. There were no book deals waiting for me to tell my story, I didn’t have millions of fans on Twitter praising me for being a teen mom.

I had an empty bank account, a tiny studio, minimal food in the fridge and no high school sweetheart taking care of us. I struggled with my self-esteem due to being a child raising a child. I had no clue if I was doing this parenting thing correctly.

Eventually, things got better. My son ended up being completely healthy and when my son was six, I met my now husband and over time we built up a nice life together, but it was never easy. Not even for one moment!

So teens, before you decide to go have sex and possible end up pregnant or get someone pregnant think about my story. Are you ready to give up your teenage years? Are you ready to be a teen mom? I can promise you it’s not going to be easy. I can promise you, no-one is going to be waiting in the delivery room with a TV or book deal. You’ll be lucky if you get a job at a fast-food restaurant and you’ll be even luckier if that person you “love” stays around to help you!

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Tuesday 4th of October 2016

I say if you want to get pregnant, its ok. Just talk to your boyfriend and make sure you guys agree.

Wednesday 17th of February 2016

I'm a teen mom and this has been the best thing that has happen to me I feel your post glorifys the worst possible thing that could happen my baby boy was fine he's amazing he doesn't have a father I graduated and attened collage and work I did it just fine I got to go to my prom and still be a wonderful mother to. My son but instead of saying your life is over having a baby when your a teen is the worst thing that could happen why don't you say your life rebegins you get to experience real true love that this baby will give you hope and encouragement and it will open your eyes that there is more to the world well that's what I. Experience anyways


Friday 26th of February 2016

You're welcome to your opinion on being a teen parent as I am. I do NOT think anyone should become a teen parent if possible and I'm going to stick with that stance.

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Tuesday 13th of October 2015

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Saturday 10th of October 2015

As a teen mom myself I happen to find this offensive. It feels as if your trying to shame teen mothers. Yes it is difficult, there is no doubt. However, telling teens not to have sex for fear of getting pregnant is outrageous and unrealistic. No one is perfect. Not every man is going to leave you, and not everyone has to be a parent alone. I came from a family that ended up being supportive of my decision to keep my son. I finished high school and now attend college. It is unfair to make teen moms feel as statistics. Yes it is hard, but not impossible. Support is the answer not shame.


Saturday 10th of October 2015

While I respect your opinion, I do disagree. Teens moms are a statistic, most are on welfare, most end up with children that become teen parents themselves or worse. Are there awesome teen moms? Of course! But you have to understand that most teen moms struggle and it's not an easy road for them.


Sunday 27th of September 2015

Thank u soo much...I've been thinking bout being a teen mum cuz it looks fun and interesting. But I'm glad I read this


Wednesday 30th of September 2015

Trust me it's not fun! Wait, I promise it's for the best.