How to Overcome Obstacles In Your Marriage

Every marriage is going to be faced with challenges at some point or another. Some challenges will be bigger than others and some will be harder to get through.

If you are dedicated to your marriage, you’ll do everything in your power to overcome these challenges.

While not easy, if you have the right tools you can get through just about anything.

Some of the most common challenges in a marriage are related to finances, parenting, infidelity and intimacy. You can get through each of these if both parties want to!

How To Overcome Challenges In Your Marriage

Financial Challenges

In a lot of marriages, there is one person who likes to spend and one person who loves to save. This can present a huge challenge unless you each get on the same page. To overcome this challenge you must both be willing to communicate and meet in the middle. Just because you like to save every penny doesn’t mean your spouse can’t ever spend money.

Create a budget together that you both feel comfortable with. Come up with a set amount you’ll save each month and also a set amount your spouse has to spend each month. As long as you both stick to this budget, things will be ok!

Parenting Challenges

Has your husband every disciplined the kids and it just made you cringe a little inside? I know there are times when my husband is disciplining the kids and I want to say something to him, like “just let it go”. Not because he is out of line with his discipline but because I don’t like anyone but ME to discipline the kids. Obviously, this isn’t realistic since we are a team.

What my husband and I have done to rectify this is anytime one of the kids is in need of a punishment we take a time out to chat with each other. We make sure we are both on the same page.

Now, this goes for those bigger things kids get in trouble for, not for things like kids horse playing and telling them to knock it off.

We also discuss our parenting styles in private so that we are a united front when we are with the children. It has helped a lot!

Infidelity Challenges

Now, in my opinion, this is one of the biggest challenges a marriage can face. I also don’t think you should always try to overcome this obstacle.

Please don’t think that I’m telling you to stay in a relationship that is unhealthy. However, there are circumstances where infidelity has occurred and both parties truly want to work it out. If this is your situation then, by all means, please do try and work on your marriage.

Once infidelity has occurred, the trust in the relationship has broken down. You know longer trust your spouse. You feel heartbroken and a wide mix of emotions you don’t know how to deal with.

If you and your spouse decide to work things out you’ll need to start from scratch by rebuilding that trust. It’s not going to be easy but it can be done.

First things first, get to the issue at hand. Why did your spouse cheat? He or she should be able to give you a reason without blame.

I would also suggest going to counseling to work through the infidelity.

Intimacy Challenges

The sex was probably awesome when you first got married. Long before children, extra-curricular activities, bills, the demands of a job and everything else that goes on in our lives.

Then one day you realize that you haven’t been intimate with your spouse in weeks, months or maybe even years. This is can pose a huge problem in a marriage.

Sex isn’t just about the physical act. It’s a way to reconnect with your partner. It’s a way that you show your partner that you still love him.

If your marriage is having problems with intimacy then I highly suggest making it a point every single week to schedule some time together. I would also sit and talk with your spouse about what is and isn’t working in the intimacy department. A little communication can go a long ways.