Is improving your marriage at the top of your list this year? Well if it isn’t, it should be! Improving your marriage is something you can always work on, even if you have a pretty happy marriage already.
Working on your marriage should be something you strive to do every single day. I’m sure you’ve heard the term “marriage takes hard work” and it’s so true!
Marriage is hard and it takes so much work!
Today, I’m sharing some of my tips to help you improve your marriage. These are tips that I use in my own marriage.
My marriage is far from perfect but we do aim to get a little better every single day.
10 Ways to Improve Your Marriage
Implement these simple tips and watch your marriage get a little better every single day.
Learn How to Communicate
Communication is key to having a happy and successful marriage. Take the time to learn what works and what doesn’t work when you communicate with your spouse. Find out what words trigger your spouse and avoid using those. Make sure you tell your spouse of any trigger words you have as well.
If you need help with communication, grab my FREE communication tips!
Have More Sex
There is something about sex that makes people happy. It’s a great way to bond with your spouse and strengthen your marriage.
If you have trouble making time to have sex with your spouse, you might want to check out my post on why you should schedule intimate time with your spouse. It might sound crazy but it really does help.
Have More Date Nights
Date nights are so needed for all couples. It’s so easy to get caught up in the day to day activities of being a parent and having a career.
I can’t tell you how many nights we put the kids to bed and then we each zone out on our devices. We are mentally exhausted and just want mind-numbing activities.
However, this is also a recipe for disaster. Pretty soon you’ll be so disconnected from your spouse.
It’s important to have regular date nights. We aim for weekly date nights. Sometimes we leave the house and other times we make date nights at home.
The point is to spend good quality time together.
No excuses! Make a date night with your spouse. Even if don’t have a babysitter. Put the kids to bed and enjoy a date night at home.
Learn to Fight Fair
Arguing with your spouse is just a part of life. However, there is a difference between having a healthy argument and a full-blown fight.
If you aren’t fighting fair with your spouse, your relationship could spiral out of control.
Remember to listen, avoid playing the blame game and if things get too heated take a time out!
Kiss Every Day
As simple as it might sound, you should kiss your spouse every single day! I know there have been times when I didn’t even remember the last time I kissed my husband.
Now that’s sad! But it’s the truth!
Make it a point to give your spouse a kiss before he/she leaves to work when they get home and before bed.
Why is this such a hard thing for so many of us? I know for me personally, I’m sorry is a hard phrase for me to say.
It’s probably because I normally feel like I’m in the right and he’s in the wrong. Do you ever feel like that?
Well ladies, we probably are right 99.99% of the time (joking)!
Even when you think you are right or even when you don’t think you did anything wrong. Say I’m sorry.
It really does make a world of difference and lets your spouse know that their feelings do matter.
After being married for a while you can start to wonder what the two of you ever had in common.
Have you ever asked yourself that question? I know that I have.
Find some hobbies that you can both enjoy.
Cooking, working out, running, golf, painting, doing puzzles, DIYs around the home. It really doesn’t matter what the hobby is as long as you both enjoy it.
The point is to find something that brings you back together instead of apart.
The other day I was at the grocery store and I saw the sweetest elderly couple. The first thing I noticed was that they were holding hands.
Something so simple yet shows such a huge sign of affection.
Next time you are out with your spouse, grab his hand.
Spice Things Up
After you’ve been married for a while, things can start to get a little boring. The good news is, things don’t have to be boring! There are lots of fun ways to start spicing things up.
You can spice things up in the bedroom by trying new positions or having more foreplay.
You can spice up your relationship by traveling together more, going on unique date nights or even communicating more.
I always say that a couple who reads together is a couple that stays together. Education is so important and it also has a place in our marriage. Reading books on how to improve intimacy, communication or build trust are all great things!
I have a full book list on some of my favorite books for couples to read. You can check that here: Books all couples should read.
Always remember that your marriage is a living, breathing thing and it’s going to take work. Make it a goal to always work on improving your marriage. Make it a point to make your marriage a number one priority.
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