7 Things to Do When Your Marriage is Suffering

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Marriage is hard work! I wish someone would have told me how hard this marriage thing really was.

Now, don’t get me wrong I love my husband so much but sometimes balancing work, the home, kids, your own personal time and your marriage is stressful. In fact, sometimes the smallest issues can put a major strain on your marriage. I personally believe that all marriages are going to have good times and bad times, but it’s how you handle the bad times that make your marriage stronger.

These seven marriage tips are perfect for getting your marriage back on track.

7 Ways to Fix Your Marriage

1. Quality Time – Drop the kids off with Grandma, hire a babysitter, barter with a neighbor or anything else within reason to enjoy some quality time together. The keyword here is quality! Don’t browse Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. Don’t talk about the kids! Spend time holding hands, giving each other kisses and enjoying each other’s company.

2. Communication Without Blame – If something is bothering you talk to your spouse about it, but don’t blame your spouse! It’s easy to blame others, but all that is going to do is shut down the communication.

3. Intimacy – This should go without saying but when we get busy with life intimacy is usually the first thing to go. While you might not feel like you “need” the intimacy it really is about more than fulfilling a need. It’s about connecting with your spouse and making each other feel loved and wanted.

4. Remember The Reasons You Love Each Other – Turn this into an activity where you each write down all the reasons you love each other, then read over the list together.

5. Stop Second Guessing Everything – I strongly believe that sometimes the problems are in our own head. When we are stressed out we tend to over analyze everything which in turn makes us second guess everything. As long as there are no serious problems in your relationship (abuse of any kind) then just give your spouse a kiss and tell him or her you love them. Don’t second guess it!

6.  Make Your Spouse a Priority – There are times when my husband feels like everything, including the coffee maker is more important than he is. This is not okay! Make sure your spouse knows they are a priority in your life.

7. Learn Each Other’s Love Language – A few years ago a friend of my husband recommended we read called (affiliate link) The 5 Love Languages. Now I’m not going to tell you that this book was a “relationship saver” but it was really eye-opening to see how different our love styles were. This has definitely helped us recognize that we each need something different.

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  1. Fi Ní Neachtáin says

    These are great tips. I wish some people I know had taken the time to do these things before dissolving their marriages.

  2. Courtney says

    Great post!! Marriage can be tricky sometimes but if both people put in effort I’m convinced most things can be fixed 😉

  3. says

    These are amazing tips which I think we should all be reminded of every now and again. Marriage or any relationship is not easy but was never meant to be hard either so we should certainly remember these points
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  4. says

    This is really full of great advice! With work, stress and kids it is easy to let our relationships take a back seat. Whenever my husband or I are feeling strained we choose an immediate date night, just us – no kid talk at all! We talk about hobbies, or work or music, sometimes we catch a movie or go to dinner, sometimes we go for a long walk, but whatever we do we always feel refreshed, recharged and connected afterwards!
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  5. says

    Your advice is very inspirational. Trying to fix a marriage is nt because of the children alone, it is because you still love each other that’s why you are still trying to make things work.

    • Kristi says

      Thank you! I agree that you can’t fix a marriage just for the kids alone. The kids should be able to see their parents happy, whether that is together or alone.

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